Learning to Enjoy People: A Psychic’s Perspective
Learning to Enjoy People: A Psychic’s Perspective
As I head to work today, I know I’ll be dealing with a lot of people. In another life—also known as my earlier version—this would have felt suffocating. Every time I had to interact with a large group, I’d experience a huge sense of contraction.
Here’s the thing: if you’re even a little bit psychic, you pick up on what others are grappling with—their pain, their viewpoints, and their way of seeing the world, which is often vastly different from yours.
I had no idea what to do with all that information except feel overwhelmed and paralyzed. Worse, I’d make assumptions about how I’d be treated and where these conversations would lead, boxing myself into conclusions before anything even happened.
But here’s something I’m so grateful to be learning:
People can surprise you.
They can astonish you with their brilliance, persistence, expertise, or a fresh perspective you’d never have considered. But it took me years to reach a place where I could genuinely enjoy people—not just in their brilliance, but in their good, bad, and ugly.
Tools That Make Interactions Easier and More Joyful
If engaging with people feels exhausting, here are some tools that have helped me shift my experience:
- What does this person naturally excel at? Focus on that and bring it to the surface.
- Allow their pain to exist. Expand your capacity to hold space instead of resisting it.
- What is this person’s secret agenda? What are they truly trying to create more of?
- If I collaborate with this person, what will it create? Look at the bigger picture.
The Devil’s Advocate View
Now, if you’re skeptical, you might be thinking:
- “This sounds like toxic positivity. Should I just ignore people’s flaws and pretend they’re amazing?”
No. Acknowledging someone’s strengths doesn’t mean ignoring red flags. It just means shifting your focus from only seeing the problem to also recognizing possibilities. - “What if someone is manipulative or draining?”
That’s exactly why asking about their secret agenda is key. When you sense what they truly want, you can engage (or disengage) with clarity. - “Why should I be the one making an effort?”
You don’t have to. But if you often feel drained around people, consider this: what if shifting your approach gives you more energy instead of less?
If this resonates—or if you have questions—drop a comment. Let’s create more ease for you.
Notes from my diary,
Prerna Wadhwa